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we hurt because we are fighting

the more you fight against all things natural, the more you hurt.

people fight for more money, more power, more material things, to be more beautiful, to be more successful....and sadly, to be happier. we need to understand that fighting will lead to noise. name me a type of fighting that does not cause friction and noise. :-)

after all that fighting, you create friction and stress. but if you sat down and said, 'wait wait wait. hang on, let me evaluate this situation here', sit down and think, you will soon realize that all the noise has gone away. you are just there, being you, calm and collected. there is no friction when you don't let the fight get to you.

internally, you begin to access the fight that means most to you. fight THAT calmly and in a manner that is in-between, socially acceptable, that does not harm others, means a lot to you and most importantly, worth your time.

time is precious and is one of those things that we have absolutely no control over. so, don't waste it fighting things that don't benefit you. not financially but mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

sounds selfish but it is not. when you benefit from it, others around you automatically benefit from it. example, a happier mother results in happier husband and children.

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