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Replacing Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones - My Struggle

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It is challenging to become more Zen-like when you are absolutely sooooo human.

One of the principles that I am really struggling to learn is learning how to prevent bad thoughts from making an appearance in my head. Buddhism stresses a whole lot mindfulness and the controlling your thoughts, you see.

Why i am struggling is because of a recent incident with a friend i thought was a good friend. I had it in me that this was someone i really wanted to be close to. I open up to him in many ways that i don't usually do for others. Hence, it hurt more to have him behave the way he did when things went wrong.

I was extremely hurt.

Therefore, till this very day, I find it hard not to feel angry and hurt whenever his name pops up in a conversation. It is as if the wounds were still fresh, that they were inflicted yesterday. But I have to move past these feelings...there isn't any point in keeping them in me. I must learn how to eradicate these bad thoughts whenever they appear in my head because it serves me none at all.

On top of that, i also need to learn how to change the bad thoughts into good ones. Send him loving thoughts.

Now, in Christianity, there is something similar - when someone slaps you on the right cheek, give him your left one.

Very hard to do, indeed. Although it is hard to achieve this, I don't think it is impossible to think good thoughts for someone who has hurt you.
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