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YOU Are Responsible

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Today, I'll delve into Buddhism which has kept me going so far, its teachings has taught me how to be sane and kept me alive. So, instead of the usual rant, I'd like to share words of wisdom that I've got from some of the free books that I've gotten from my temple.

The books are free and if someone wants them, I'd actually give them away and share the words of wisdom with them.

Here's one. It is an excerpt or written at the start of 'You Are Responsible' by K. Sri Dhammananda.

You must learn to shoulder the responsibilities of your own life. You have to learn to admit your own weaknesses without blaming or disturbing others. Remember the old saying: "The uncultured man always blame others; the semi-cultured man blames himself; and the fully-cultured man blames neither."

 This happens to me a lot, especially when I was younger. When something went wrong, it was because of someone else's doing, nothing was in my control and I felt like I was spiraling around in a swirl of wind at the whims of a tornado.  

At some point, we will have to realize that the tornado is ours. It us.

It continues...

Be courageous to face any change if change is natural or necessary; so be brave enough to accept what you cannot avoid. Be wise enough to understand the uncertainty of worldly conditions which affect everybody. Therefore, you must develop courage to face disappointments and problems without feeling frustrated. Difficulties abound in our life. We have to face them bravely. If you know how to overcome them without creating further problems, you are indeed wise.

 Over the years, I've placed the blame on a lot of people. Some warranted, many others not so much. My philandering father, not my doing. But the failure of my marriage, I had a role to play. My faltering job, I probably had something to do with it, but a cruel man taunting my family is not something I have control over.

When faced with a circumstance whereby I have control over, it is my responsibility to face it, admit and then correct it.

Excepts taken from "You Are Responsible" bu K. Sri Dhammananda. Book published for free distribution by the Buddhist Missionary Society,

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